Mediation of sharing behavior
In our world- a world in which there are no few situations of alienation, of individualism which is, at times, extreme, the ability to share experiences with our fellow man and to participate in his experiences is most desirable.
In the big cities, two hundred people can live in the same building and not know one another, nor greet one another when they meet by chance. The primary need of a human being to share with his fellow man is continually decreasing. People prefer to reduce the areas of friction?? between them, for better or worse.
The mediated interaction of a behavior of sharing is designed to restore to us, as human beings, the readiness and ability to make contact to arrive at a meeting with our fellow man, and to increase in us the ability to "rub shoulders" with him, to adjust ourselves to him, and to create harmony between our steps and his.
There are cultures in which the cognitive, emotional and even the magic participation with our fellow man represents a central need for a person. I still recall the embarrassment I felt years ago when I was given the unpleasant task of reporting to the parents of a young girl her inappropriate behavior:
The mother wept aloud and invited all the neighbors to come and hear how miserable she was The news spread rapidly, women and children entered crying and mourning, while the mother repeated the description of the shame and pain which the daughter had visited on the family. Instead of hiding her shame, the mother turned it public knowledge??. In similar fashion, many children made public in the boarding school the extremely unpleasant news that had reached them in letters they had received from home, as if the only way for them to experience the reality ©fihe letter was to increase its significance by sharing it with others.
Other cultures attach importance precisely to secrecy, to the right of a person to absolute privacy. Sometimes the need for privacy attains such proportions that a person is not supposed to appear before another person whilst he is eating his meal. Ent despite the inter-cultural differences, the human being expresses a sharing behavior already at a very early stage of his life. Children tend to point to everything that they see, as if seeking to share with the other in the experience they have undergone. At later stages, other manifestations of emotion, such as crying or laughter, constitute a way for the T" to impose himself on his fellow, in an effort to cause him to participate in his emotions.
In our day, the need and readiness to share with our fellow man our experiences and to participate in his experiences is an adaptational?? necessity. In the social conditions in which a person is liable to find himself, the educational value of the mediation of sharing with the fellow man is not confined to the emotional aspect, but there is in it with what to enrich a person's treasury of mental-cognitive behaviors. One of the outstanding examples of this is the artistic person whose spiritual poverty derives from his being unable to share with his fellow man and to participate with him